Being vulnerable can be scary and a bit nerve-wracking, but it is worth it in the long run. Your partner is the person closest to you, so why not let them in to know you for the real you?
Because it is easier said than done. It is hard to let go of the past hurt and failed relationships, with those memories coming up every now and again. It took me quite some time to trust again, let go of the past and move on.
I had to come to the realization that my next relationship will not be the same as the last one, and that this person deserves a real chance. A chance to get to know who I really am inside and out.
Relationships themselves are hard work, with both parties working together to figure out what works best for them both. Being vulnerable connects you to your partner on a deeper level, helping them to understand you more.
Give your relationship a chance to grow and achieve its fullest potential!
If you are up for the challenge, here are some ways to be vulnerable for a better relationship with your partner:
Address the Issue When it Arises, Don’t Wait Until Later
Most people find it uncomfortable to talk about things that bother them because they are wondering what the other person’s reaction will be. Trying to avoid conflict, you would rather not say anything and pretend that everything is fine.
Do yourself and your partner a favor by speaking up when something is wrong. Whether you think they want to hear it or not, you need to be heard.
The problem with not speaking up when you should is that it doesn’t solve anything. You aren’t being true to yourself; eventually, those bottled-up emotions will come out worse than you intended.
Speaking up not only puts you at ease by expressing your feelings at that time, but it also helps your partner to understand and learn you more.
Hold Yourself Accountable for Your Actions
One of the hardest things to do is admit that you were wrong. Pride can get the best of us all, we just can’t bear to allow someone to see us fail at something. It’s easier to create excuses and dance around the reason for being wrong in the first place.
Holding yourself accountable creates growth within, as you are learning that you too aren’t perfect. This helps you see things clearer, pushing you to do better and learn from your mistakes.
APOLOGIZE. They will see that you can accept your faults and work on them, rather than find other reasons not to address them and brush them under the rug like they didn’t happen.
It’s easier said than done. Sure you listen, you hear everything that someone is telling you. But do you actually listen to what they are saying? Even more, when you feel like you are being attacked are you still listening?
Being vulnerable includes being able to face the fire when it’s too hot to bear. You will hear things that you may not like and don’t agree with, but you have to be open to this feedback.
Create the same space for your partner that they have created for you when it comes to expressing yourselves to one another.
Don’t let fear get in your way
Your past relationship memories can creep up when you least expect them, creating these negative thoughts and emotions. Remind yourself that it is the past for a reason and that part of your life is over.
Fear can affect you in so many different ways. It can cause anxiety, make you act the opposite of how you really want to act, or even cause you to push yourself further away from the person you love.
Don’t be afraid to let your partner in because of the possibility of getting hurt. You have to be honest and open if you want to experience the love that you have been looking for all this time.
In order to overcome something, as with anything, you have to face it head-on. Life is about taking chances. Have your go at love again to see where it can take you.
Vulnerability exposes you in a way that takes you out of your comfort zone. With your heart leading the way, all of your flaws and insecurities are following right behind it. The way to a deeper connection and better relationship with your partner is by keeping those walls down and letting them get to know the real YOU.